There is a line between being an enabler and being an enabler. Every day I see people who cross that line, and I too have to stop myself from proceeding to close to the edge of providing too much assistance. We all want to be helpful, we want to offer our support to those around us, but in my line of work we have to be mindful that once you have graduated high school and are over the age of 18 we cannot hold your hand throughout your academic career. You have made the choice to attend college, which is a different environment than the high school or job you just left, but these differences are not insurmountable, and the skills you will learn while traversing your academic career will guide you to a successful productive life.
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Enabler \ noun \i-ˈnā-blər:
1) a person or organization that makes it possible for someone else to achieve something
2) someone who makes it possible for someone to continue with a behavior that is bad for them
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Is it any wonder how we can go so quickly from the first definition to the second? It is a very thin line.
Be mindful to be an enabler and not an enabler.
Happy Monday my friends!